There is a famous sentence that “When you go to Rome, do what the Roman do.”  It sounds interesting, but it tells us that when you go to another country, it is important to fit in their culture. Therefore the cross-culture communication is the best way to help you know the difference between your home country and the foreign country.

Americans are always active in the daily life. When I first came to America, I was amazed to find that people say “Hi” or smile to strangers. This behavior let me feel kindness. It is another common way that American use in their daily lives, such as they always use “Thank you” to appreciate other people have done. When Americans want to pass by the other people , no matter how narrow the street is or how big the space is , they say “Excuse me” to apologize. To be honestly, I feel shock for the first time, because I never thought that Americans are so polite in daily life before I came to America.Therefore, in American’s daily life, kindness and polite are the basic rules people should obey. Compared to my country, people always guard against strangers, and do not talk to strangers. Therefore, it is the first communication way that foreigner can follow.

Secondly, Americans are very direct. “When they want something they say “yes”, and when they don’t like they say “no”.Americans like to tell others their real feelings; they express their feelings directly and honestly. They won’t consider too much other people’s feeling. They care what they feel, and in their mind to let themselves feel happy and comfortable are more important than to do the things they don’t like to do. In addition, Americans will tell you such as “I like your shoes”, or “Your T-shirt is so cute”. They tell others what they directly thought and their true feeling. From my own experience, Americans are easygoing, because you can know what they feel, if they feel bad or uncomfortable, they will let you know, and you do not need to guess their opinions. Therefore, it is very essential to have psychological preparation to face American’s true feeling and their manners. For these kinds of manners, the foreigners should know that it does not show Americans are impolite, it just their common manners of get along with other people. This is the second communication way that we foreigners can follow.

Last but not least, people in America are individual. Americans develop their individual consciousness when they were young. Americans educate their children do what they should do in the future. They train their children as separate individuals, and tell them the only person they can rely on is themselves. They cannot look forward to other’s help in this competitive world. Therefore when they grow up, they are used to do their own thing individually, and in their opinion, everyone should do their own things, and not rely on others. It seems that Americans are cold, but America’s significant part is personal value. The key point the foreigner should know about America is that you should take the responsibility by yourself. 

To sum up, every country has their culture. If people want to adapt the foreign life quickly, what they should do is communicate with the local people, and fit in their culture, life style, get along with other people’s manner and personal values. According to these rules, you may enjoy your life in a foreign country.